Relationships impact our lives almost more than anything else we experience. Our relationship with God shapes who we are, the decisions we make, and what we believe about God and ourselves. Our relationships with others greatly impact our world, giving it meaning and purpose, and even shaping our own character. Because of this, when we experience broken relationships, it significantly impacts us. The Bible urges us to, “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace,” (Eph 4:2-3) because of how disruptive it is to our souls when we are at odds with someone close to us.
However, on this side of heaven, all of us will unfortunately experience relational conflict. Conflict and brokenness can occur between spouses, parents and children, friends, or within the church walls. It is important to recognize the emotional toll of the broken relationship, and then ask for help for reconciliation if possible. Our God is a God of restoration, and He is able to restore us to Himself, as well as restore relationships among us, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; the old has gone, the new has come! All this is from God, who reconciled us to himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation” (2Corinthians 5:17-18). (If the relationship is harmful toward you physically or emotionally, immediately get help and discuss the issue with a neutral third party that you know and trust, and seek godly counsel).
Experiencing a broken relationship feels very much like a loss in your life. You may experience symptoms of grief, such as denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. It can be a very painful time, and we would like to support you during this process. We want you to know that you are not alone, and that God will never leave you.
First, be open with God about your struggle. Be open with Him about your need for help. Second, talk to a godly person you know and trust. Setting up an appointment with a Christian counselor can help you through the process.
- Battling Unbelief, by John Piper
- The Anxiety Cure, by Dr. Archibald Hart
If you have experienced a broken relationship, we would like to help and support you.